how do you deal with people who WRONGED you

[uh-oh]

i usually hit them in the head alot

but that cycle of interactions just lead to more mental pain

lets say someone you know has WRONGED you, and you want to beat them to death, how do you STOP it from circling and controlling your thoughts?

for the past few hours since learning of this SLIGHT upon my honor, i can't stop thinking about it and i don't know how to stop this cycle of thoughts. its my day off, i wanna get stoned and relax and just fuck off

but i can't get high with this mindset because i will just dwell in my internal misery

how do you guys deal with shit mentally?

@veritas to thread

talk me down bro

[Strikta]

Let it slide.

For now.

Catch em on the rebound.

Don't forget.

Revenge is sweet.

[uh-oh]

word im saying, how do you let it slide and not be overwhelmed with feelings of wackness

like im trying to just get my mind off it so i can let it slide lol

[dyedinthewool]

smoke a bowl, order in and watch movies with your baby king chihuahua gawd and eat gummie worms.

[TYSON]

Keep them at a safe distance. Let it slide and wait for that eye for an eye moment.

[Strikta]

Just smoke an L bro.

[oats]

occupy your mind with something else. read a book, watch a movie. if it's overpowering and you can't stop thinking about it, you have to write it out. or talk about it with someone, just something to release it.

[ill nik-A]

I write bro

I got demons that'll knock niggaz the fuck out

[Just Write]

Nah just go fuck em up. You'll feel better yo

[uh-oh]

word i can't really be vague i guess

i gave my pops 100 to get groceries. i told him we gotta make this last like 2 weeks i don't care if we eat hot dogs and beans every night, just hook it up. i usually give him like 60 a week and he hooks shit up.

well basically im putting groceries away and i see he spent 58 dollars at the grocery store on the receipt. he also went to the dollar store to get a big thing of coffee, sugar, and trashbags. which im guessing can't be more than 15 dollars.

so there is 25 missing. if he asked me for it i wouldve gave it to him. but he didnt. and he lied to my face about it and made up elaborate stories.

like apparently he seen his old friend carla at the grocery store and he's basically telling me a story about how good he looks for his age, cuz everyone he knows looks old and ragged.

so i'm already putting two and two together. this old nigga went to the bar wtf

well than he's talking like "yea i dont know how i do it, when i got to the register its like 85 dollars and i had 87" which he usually does, he talks about how he spent almost exactly the amount i've given him.

but word basically he lied right there cuz i seen it said 58 on the receipt

once again if he just asked for 20 to go to the bar, its his. but don't lie to me.

i feel bad for him. he sits in this house for weeks on end watching the same dvd's over and over, so im glad he got to get out and shit

its the lying that is killing me

i can't confront him, even in a friendly way like "hey bro its all good" way. if i confront him and he lies i will kill him. if he does the opposite and acts shamed like yea man sorry, it will kill ME.

so im basically just gonna try and forget this happened

and not be lazy and cop groceries myself.

i just feel bad tho because i see myself in his lying self, and all the years i played him from a teen on up

[dyedinthewool]

Yes forget it. He's your pops always remember that. Occupying your mind with something else right now would be the best thing you can do. Don't confront him about it and just do the groceries next time with him and the following time alone so he doesn't start to even wonder. That's rough but I imagine you care enough because you mentioned it would upset you if he lied again and it would kill you if he was honest. I'd never want to make my dad feel shameful when we're so used to being the shameful ones as kids
uh-oh

[Three-Planes-Aligned]

If you instant replay events in your mind repeatedly you will manifest helplessness (and taking to violence to reclaim control will seem all the more tempting).

Say to yourself "Hm, so this is how I think/feel" knowing that an emotion is a feather in the wind as far as informing actions goes. Remind yourself that this person has his history making his actions if not excusable at least logically understandable.

[ill nik-A]

Forget it


It is what it is

[Ghost1]

Shewww uh oh bout to beat his pops to death over a 20 spot.. lol.

Man....it's already gotta be demeaning enuff to get sent to the grocery store by ur own son with an allowance to spend....Let alone the thought of having to ask for additional loot to get sum drinks.

Let that old nigga LIVE yo.

He will be working again soon enuff.

[Witty]

I usually remove them from my life.

It is not always possible tho.

[Witty]

Put it in the back of your mind and let it eat away at your brain until your general demeanor becomes sullen and withered.

Nah but for real, I would just say 'fuck did you steal my money for?'

No point fucking around about it, just call him out and use words instead of killing him, but get an honest answer out of him and then chill the fuck out.

[oats]

Settle it in the BA. Sometimes you gotta flex on the old man.

[Witty]

dead.

might be good for activity tho.

[veritas]

word i can't really be vague i guess

i gave my pops 100 to get groceries. i told him we gotta make this last like 2 weeks i don't care if we eat hot dogs and beans every night, just hook it up. i usually give him like 60 a week and he hooks shit up.

well basically im putting groceries away and i see he spent 58 dollars at the grocery store on the receipt. he also went to the dollar store to get a big thing of coffee, sugar, and trashbags. which im guessing can't be more than 15 dollars.

so there is 25 missing. if he asked me for it i wouldve gave it to him. but he didnt. and he lied to my face about it and made up elaborate stories.

like apparently he seen his old friend carla at the grocery store and he's basically telling me a story about how good he looks for his age, cuz everyone he knows looks old and ragged.

so i'm already putting two and two together. this old nigga went to the bar wtf

well than he's talking like "yea i dont know how i do it, when i got to the register its like 85 dollars and i had 87" which he usually does, he talks about how he spent almost exactly the amount i've given him.

but word basically he lied right there cuz i seen it said 58 on the receipt

once again if he just asked for 20 to go to the bar, its his. but don't lie to me.

i feel bad for him. he sits in this house for weeks on end watching the same dvd's over and over, so im glad he got to get out and shit

its the lying that is killing me

i can't confront him, even in a friendly way like "hey bro its all good" way. if i confront him and he lies i will kill him. if he does the opposite and acts shamed like yea man sorry, it will kill ME.

so im basically just gonna try and forget this happened

and not be lazy and cop groceries myself.

i just feel bad tho because i see myself in his lying self, and all the years i played him from a teen on up


the last sentence of your post is where you need to start sir.

[Split]

I post their noodz online

[ill nik-A]

How many times u took lunch money to buy nickel bags
C'mon man let that shit ride and offer some, that's pops my nigga

[uh-oh]

word its straight

i was just BUGGIN earlier

[Masaii]

Its $20 mate. Maybe he is ashamed of having an allowance from his son, thats why he doesn't want to tell you about it. Just confront him civilly and say look if you want extra to do whatever with next time please dont lie to me just be forthcoming its not an issue.

He is your father man, mine has done terrible shit to my family but I could never strike him.

[CtrlF4]

I hate when somebody lies to me. My head explodes! Especially, if I already know the truth. Just smoke and take a walk.

[Inno]

Nc got some hard ass niggas.


"hey pops I know u took care of me when I was growing. U up and I know I lied to you at least 1000 times about bullshit. And hey I know I took all your dreams and aspirations when I was born. And I know you've gone through so much raising me.....but can I get my 20 spot back yo, you fuckimg thief"

Lmao@u

You will never be more than worthless.

Karma.

[uh-oh]

you guys are dumb. i was sweating this because i live in the real world where 20 dollars is 4 giant chicken breasts and 10 boxes of rice a roni

im not looking at it like he took 20 dollars of my excess money to spend on whatever

this is money for both of us to SURVIVE, thats at least 4 dinners yo.

when i asked him to make that 100 last 2 weeks thats 14 dinners yo and some peanut butter or sandwich stuff inbetween. for both of us to not go to sleep hungry

this nigga did the usual and got like 7 meals, like oh we'll be alright. probably thinking i'll shell out another 60 next week

i'm not going to tho, and i ain't calling my boys so he can sell his pills to them. he can go hungry and regret his decision making. i'll cop some ramen noodles and he can live for a week off them and peanut butter sandwiches

[dull boy]

Uh oh living filthy.

[big baby]

i can western union ya 13.50 if it'd make u feel betta

[Masaii]

Uh oh gotta be related to Strikta after reading that last post.

[Witty]

I can relate to uh-oh probably more than I relate to anyone else here tbh.

[dull boy]

I relate.

[veritas]

Innovator for the win

[Witty]

Nc got some hard ass niggas.


"hey pops I know u took care of me when I was growing. U up and I know I lied to you at least 1000 times about bullshit. And hey I know I took all your dreams and aspirations when I was born. And I know you've gone through so much raising me.....but can I get my 20 spot back yo, you fuckimg thief"

Lmao@u

You will never be more than worthless.

Karma.

My father raised me in a way that if you think something, you say it. If I stole money from him, which I have done when I was a kid, he'd call me straight out on it and tell me what for, and if he did it to me he knows I would do the same.

Why not? Cuz I might hurt his feelings?

I don't understand that way of thinking...just be honest and say the shit you think, to whoever and whenever.

Talking about 'you took away all my dreams and I raised you'...fuck that shit, you got someone pregnant and had a kid, that's your duty to raise the mother fucker, doesn't give you any right to steal from another man, and if you do steal from another man and get caught, you need to be called out on it. Same goes for any man..doesn't matter if he's your parent or not.

[veritas]

The point is jim needs to look at himself first.

[Inno]

[QUOTE=Witty;322logiised me in a way that if you think something, you say it. If I stole money from him, which I have done when I was a kid, he'd call me straight out on it and tell me what for, and if he did it to me he knows I would do the same.

Why not? Cuz I might hurt his feelings?

I don't understand that way of thinking...just be honest and say the shit you think, to whoever and whenever.

Talking about 'you took away all my dreams and I raised you'...fuck that shit, you got someone pregnant and had a kid, that's your duty to raise the mother fucker, doesn't give you any right to steal from another man, and if you do steal from another man and get caught, you need to be called out on it. Same goes for any man..doesn't matter if he's your parent or not.[/QUOTE]

That's pops man. You talking like yo homeboy took 20 bucks from u...and uh oh....from that last post seems like yah family has had it hard....meaning your father has gone through it to raise you and make u the man u are today.


Dam I should not feed my kids cuz well, I feel like they have it good...they eat every day. When I was growing up what wasn't the case....that's sound logic....

Kids I feel like your stealing from so I'm not gonna feed you today.


Your all unfit to be any where near children.

Witty Def not nigga drunker than chicken

[CtrlF4]

you guys are dumb. i was sweating this because i live in the real world where 20 dollars is 4 giant chicken breasts and 10 boxes of rice a roni

im not looking at it like he took 20 dollars of my excess money to spend on whatever

this is money for both of us to SURVIVE, thats at least 4 dinners yo.

when i asked him to make that 100 last 2 weeks thats 14 dinners yo and some peanut butter or sandwich stuff inbetween. for both of us to not go to sleep hungry

this nigga did the usual and got like 7 meals, like oh we'll be alright. probably thinking i'll shell out another 60 next week

i'm not going to tho, and i ain't calling my boys so he can sell his pills to them. he can go hungry and regret his decision making. i'll cop some ramen noodles and he can live for a week off them and peanut butter sandwiches

You wasting time. They'll never understand!

[Witty]

That's pops man. You talking like yo homeboy took 20 bucks from u...and uh oh....from that last post seems like yah family has had it hard....meaning your father has gone through it to raise you and make u the man u are today.


Dam I should not feed my kids cuz well, I feel like they have it good...they eat every day. When I was growing up what wasn't the case....that's sound logic....

Kids I feel like your stealing from so I'm not gonna feed you today.


Your all unfit to be any where near children.

Witty Def not nigga drunker than chicken

There's a difference between speaking to children and two grown men speaking to each other.

I would have instantly said some shit, and so would my Dad. That's how he raised me.

[veritas]

Missong the point: both uh oh amd his dad are dirt people.

Obv.


Uh oh needs to work on himself.

/thread.

[CtrlF4]

Missong the point: both uh oh amd his dad are dirt people.

Obv.


Uh oh needs to work on himself.

/thread.

How is uh oh dirt? Is it because he's from poverty? I think uh oh is pretty solid.

[veritas]

He is a scumbag.

We are all dirt. We are all not scum.

[Dominate]

What ill luck has befallen you that you're scratching for food? You seem to be a generally sensible and knowledgable type... Do you work?

You were young and selfish at some point and I bet you used money he gave you for something other than what it was intended for ... Cut him some slack. He's prolly already ashamed to be living with you and too proud to ask you for money.

[Dope girl]

Well, depends on the situation I leave him/she alone or walk away from the situation.

[Badweather]

i typically let the person know that I know what they did. i then speak nothing of it. seeking shelter in the warmth of good karma.

and essentially understanding that nothing worldly truly matters in the end.

[veritas]

i typically let the person know that I know what they did. i then speak nothing of it. seeking shelter in the warmth of good karma.

and essentially understanding that nothing worldly truly matters in the end.


"there is no understanding all the things that people do".

[Untold]

Forgive them.

[Chyeahhh!!!]

Karma is one hell of a.thing to happen to a person. Accountability is universal though its acceptance is not shared by all. The universe makes it so that you are held responsible in some way shape or form. Voice it and let the situation unfuck itself. What's in store for them is usually better than anything you can come.up.with in the grand scheme of things which may give you more of a matter of fact/befitting pleasure once you figure out it was that accountability coming into fruition when it does.

Ponders........