Privacy in marriage

[TYSON]

How do u feel about it? What's the line that shouldn't be crossed?

[Paradox]

Well draw some examples, do you mean shitting while she is brushing her teeth or are we talking emotional boundaries here?

[dull boy]

All depends on what you and they want/expect. You're sharing your life with someone.

Personally, I hate secrets.

[TYSON]

Phone, email, texts, and social networking......

[TYSON]

All depends on what you and they want/expect. You're sharing your life with someone.

Personally, I hate secrets.

I agree

[Objective]

Phone, email, texts, and social networking......

That depends a lot on history/situation as well. If you've given her any reasons not to trust you, then I'd say: give her time to trust you again and be open about anything that might help in order to save the marriage (if the situation is that bad).

If you haven't given her any reasons not to trust you, then I'd say; Tell her you have a life outside of hers with friends etc. as well. They confide in you and she got to respect that you want to hold your word that you wouldn't tell anyone, even to her and emails/phone etc. might jeopardize that. Optional/assess the situation: I'd say that even though you're together you still have a life that deserves privacy and trust from both as well that you'll stay faithful towards each other, and that she got to respect your boundaries as you respect hers. (Between you and me tho'; it's none of her business as long as you're true to her.)

[trap]

Phone, email, texts, and social networking......

There is no line to be crossed in any of these.

If you're in a solid, trusting relationship, you should be telling your significant other interesting or important stories / situations based on those four on a daily basis.

If you're hiding something on any of those that you think might upset your significant other, maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship, or in a relationship at all.

And this is a proverbial "you".

[Objective]

If you're hiding something on any of those that you think might upset your significant other, maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship, or in a relationship at all.

True, I'd never tell something emotional a friend of mine has told me about his personal life that he struggles with and don't want anyone to know to my SO, unless it's something my SO really NEEDS to know for other reasons than just being curious.

[Template]

best relationships are built on strong foundations of routine and dishonesty. Beatles wrote about it "all you need is routine and dishonesty"

[TYSON]

Hmmm I feel y'all but I'm gon put it out there, don't care. This about my wife actually. The baby's daddy is back in the picture after 6 years which was partly my decision because I feel should know her real father. I have not met the nigga face to face yet because there is past beef between me and him from him threats of bodily harm to each other and don't want drama in front of the child. She has recently said she don't want another after years of trying and a miscarriage knowing that I always wanted a child of my own. I decided to stay with her tho because she is my wife and I love her and didn't marry her just to have a baby. So now he texts her everyday asking about the child from what I'm told. I am a lil concerned tho because before him our phones passwords were known by each other but now hers has changed since she got a new phone. She tells me that the texts and call are only about the child but I doubt it not to say she wants him because he did too much for her to be stupid enough to go back with him. Is it my insecurities playing with me or should be on the offensive about this? Everything seems to be happy between us but damn I have seen and heard so many relationships where things were not what they seemed. ....trolls have your way I will focus on the honesty the few give me

[trap]

I think it depends on the details of the phone calls between those two and whether she's giving them to you.

She probably doesn't want anymore drama as well but there's a thin line here she's trying not to cross but almost has to to help the child and their involvement.

[TYSON]

I think it depends on the details of the phone calls between those two and whether she's giving them to you.

She probably doesn't want anymore drama as well but there's a thin line here she's trying not to cross but almost has to to help the child and their involvement.

Explain that thin line.

[Tic]

I believe in telling your wife just about everything. There are certain instances like friends with issues as you said, that you necessarily don't have to tell her, but it's nice to talk to someone about that kind of stuff as well.

In your current situation, I'd ask her why the password changed all of a sudden. The fact that it's a "new phone" means nothing on the significance of the password. I'm not trying to say your wife is going behind your back, but if your relationship was open before and you knew her password, there is no reason why you shouldn't know it now that he's back in the picture. If she doesn't share the password with you, then I would get on the offensive. And if she DOES share the password with you but his texts start magically disappearing, the same applies. Hope everything works out and this is just in your mind.

[TYSON]

I can't get over the drama if the nigga can. He blamed me for her not letting him see his daughter but it was all her decision I just backed whatever she wanted to do.

[Destroyer]

the fact that there is a new password is concerning
why would she need to lock you out? it's just shady
I'd be concerned, don't go crazy or anything, but I'd ask her why she feels the need to lock you out of her phone now

[TYSON]

I believe in telling your wife just about everything. There are certain instances like friends with issues as you said, that you necessarily don't have to tell her, but it's nice to talk to someone about that kind of stuff as well.

In your current situation, I'd ask her why the password changed all of a sudden. The fact that it's a "new phone" means nothing on the significance of the password. I'm not trying to say your wife is going behind your back, but if your relationship was open before and you knew her password, there is no reason why you shouldn't know it now that he's back in the picture. If she doesn't share the password with you, then I would get on the offensive. And if she DOES share the password with you but his texts start magically disappearing, the same applies. Hope everything works out and this is just in your mind.

Ok but supposedly she found a new password app where it's tap code to unlock and thought it was cool but hasn't gave me the tap code

[trap]

The thin line is that she has to speak to him so he can be more involved in the childs life, but she probably also has to endure his possible ridiculous flirting he might be doing because he can get away with saying these things in between the chat about their child. She probably disregards those stupid flirt texts, or what you would interpret as such, so she is withholding that information to prevent you from getting upset. I'm sure she is handling the situation well, and is also considering your feelings in this matter, and not whatever you might think is happening.

[Tic]

Ok but supposedly she found a new password app where it's tap code to unlock and thought it was cool but hasn't gave me the tap code
Talk to her about it. Don't start attacking her, just have a conversation with her. Tell her how you feel so she can hear it from your perspective.

[Diode]

i don't go through her stuff and she doesn't go through mine.

if either feels the need to, there is no trust in the relationship.

[TYSON]

The thin line is that she has to speak to him so he can be more involved in the childs life, but she probably also has to endure his possible ridiculous flirting he might be doing because he can get away with saying these things in between the chat about their child. She probably disregards those stupid flirt texts, or what you would interpret as such, so she is withholding that information to prevent you from getting upset. I'm sure she is handling the situation well, and is also considering your feelings in this matter, and not whatever you might think is happening.

This pretty much what I think is going on. I don't think not telling me or withholding them is a good way to avoid drama because it causes drama between me in her instead.

[Destroyer]

On the other hand, there's something to be said about trust
you should trust your wife, 100%, and if something ends up happening, then it's not on you at all.
I would probably just ignore it and not sweat it honestly
if she ends up leaving u for dude or something, then fuck her anyways, right?
and if dude is trying to flirt and shit, let him. if your wife is legit, it won't matter.

[TYSON]

i don't go through her stuff and she doesn't go through mine.

if either feels the need to, there is no trust in the relationship.

I feel ya on that. And I'm trying to hold on to the trust. I just think I should be able to check a nigga trying to get at my wife. I got anger issues and I think I'm looking for a target.

[Hush]

He's fucking her


Condolences

[TYSON]

On the other hand, there's something to be said about trust
you should trust your wife, 100%, and if something ends up happening, then it's not on you at all.
I would probably just ignore it and not sweat it honestly
if she ends up leaving u for dude or something, then fuck her anyways, right?
and if dude is trying to flirt and shit, let him. if your wife is legit, it won't matter.

I know I know!!!!!! It's my mind playing tricks cause I know she wouldn't just don't want to put my all in something and be like damn in the end. But u are 100% right. Joke all u want but love makes me feel weak and strong at the same time

[TYSON]

He's fucking her


Condolences

I know he ain't fucking her cause she has no time and everytime she takes the child to see him her mothers there and she hates his guts. Lol nice try tho

Confirmed troll tho

[TYSON]

namix I got what need out of this. A objective pov. Close thread.....

[Objective]

Get your insecurities in check, listen to Des. You'll be fine.

[TYSON]

Word

[dull boy]

Eyes Wide Shut.

[Hush]

Srsly tho

Ur getting marriage counseling from this site now ?

Do u have friends?

[oats]

i don't go through her stuff and she doesn't go through mine.

if either feels the need to, there is no trust in the relationship.


this. just be honest with her and confront her. tell her that you don't feel comfortable with how things are right now, set parameters, and be flexible about the parameters she sets. if you're reasonable about it and she trips out, there's likely a problem. it's natural to feel insecurities, but indulging them won't solve anything.

think of it this way: if you scour her phone and all that and find nothing, will you be satisfied? what if she erased the stuff she didn't want you to see? the point being, you can't prove she didn't do anything; you can only prove what someone did.

[Greed]

I broke up with a ballin ass female due to her kids and baby daddy interaction. But I just hate kids. And the bitch let them run shit talking about the kids pay the bills around here with child support and etc. Im trying to get freaky bitch and you gonna leave the fucking door unlocked its already weird enough that im even halfway willing to play stepdaddy you PUNK BITCH TELL THEM BASTARDS TO GO TO BED.... I digress

Its baggage that you knew came with the female anyways. Also, what des said about if she go back to him fuck her anyways. Realistically they probably wont get back together with the been there done that factor, at the worst it might be some long time no see fucking.

[TYSON]

Srsly tho

Ur getting marriage counseling from this site now ?

Do u have friends?

I needed objective advice my friends would only tell me what would benefit them like me coming back to Texas.

[Half Wit It]

Personally, I do not trust shit like that. Before you know it he's going to be telling her all of his problems casually without bringing up the child at all. Not saying don't trust her, but her ex will definitely plant seeds if he sees an opening. No pun intended. Plus y'all got beef so he might be on a "I fucked yo bitch" mission. Real talk

[TYSON]

If he does that and succeed then it will only have helped me in the long run.

[big baby]

BROKE LESNAR lot of stuff in here for us

[big baby]

maybe if u werent playing bf4 and fucking her the wifi password to her pussy would be impritned in a tattoo on ya dik tbh

[TYSON]

Lol my name tatted on her chest tbh

[dull boy]

I broke up with a ballin ass female due to her kids and baby daddy interaction. But I just hate kids. And the bitch let them run shit talking about the kids pay the bills around here with child support and etc. Im trying to get freaky bitch and you gonna leave the fucking door unlocked its already weird enough that im even halfway willing to play stepdaddy you PUNK BITCH TELL THEM BASTARDS TO GO TO BED.... I digress

Its baggage that you knew came with the female anyways. Also, what des said about if she go back to him fuck her anyways. Realistically they probably wont get back together with the been there done that factor, at the worst it might be some long time no see fucking.



Niggers

[StarFaggot]

He's fucking her


Condolences

Repped

[Fig]

Repped

Why does your sig say that?

[Greed]

Niggers

You will regret this.

[StarFaggot]

Why does your sig say that?

Because Witty wants to pinkslip battle me. He will lose.


TYSON you need to let your girl you're going to need a child straight up. If you want a kid then you should hold your ground on that. She's already got a kid but she don't want one with you? Nah bruh, divorce her or get another girl pregnant. Have an on break baby.

[dull boy]

You will regret this.

I just wanted to introduce you to a member I thought you had common interests with.

[Fig]

Because Witty wants to pinkslip battle me. He will lose.


TYSON you need to let your girl you're going to need a child straight up. If you want a kid then you should hold your ground on that. She's already got a kid but she don't want one with you? Nah bruh, divorce her or get another girl pregnant. Have an on break baby.

Yeah + you don't even gotta raise it either. I mean if you really don't want to. You're not a chick, that shit is her problem.

[BROKE LESNAR]

BROKE LESNAR lot of stuff in here for us

lmao good find

[Split]

Don't trust, just give off the illusion of trust

[Witty]

My phone is my phone, my private conversations are my private conversations, though I would probably be cool to discuss them if asked, the only thing I couldn't get with is the looking at my phone without me knowing...just ask me and I'll say what it was about, if i see you sneak reading my convos I would probably draw the line.

Anything that shows a lack of trust and intrudes into privacy without making me aware of it would be a line for me.

[DLB]

why are u married in 2014 if i understood correctly w/o reading OP? my first question. u get nothing out of it

if the cheating things i saw were true, confront her. you're a man tyson. she's just a bitch(not in a literal way, unless needed to be meant literally), bitches your age will monkeybranch 9/10 anyways. if u believe she cheating, confront her. no need to run, sloots gonna sloot fam. i assume ur still in your 20s, perfect time for a sloot to do so.

don't believe the mom either g. u think the mom hates the guy, she could easily be having him over there to fuck her sloot of a daughter. unless u seen her calling dude a nigger or something, no assumptions. family'll lie for blood orver telling u the truth.

[dull boy]

This thread is why Robin Williams killed himself.

[Witty]

This thread is why Robin Williams killed himself.

That shit has me fucked up.

Spent hours yesterday in a store rubbing lamps in desperation but he didn't show up.

[StarFaggot]

Don't trust, just give off the illusion of trust

Realest thing said ITT.

Here's rep.

[Witty]

Realest thing said ITT.

Here's rep.

I saw you paying respect to Robin Williams.

We good.

[StarFaggot]

I saw you paying respect to Robin Williams.

We good.

lol cool cuz we like you here at netcees

[Witty]

lol cool cuz we like you here at netcees

We like you here too Aero <3

[TYSON]

After a lot of arguing I got the passcode and yes he was hitting on her and she turned him down everytime. She didn't want me to get mad because it's not about us it's about the child. So now I got figure out how to check this nigga without making it hard for my step daughter to see her father. One problem after another.

[StarFaggot]

After a lot of arguing I got the passcode and yes he was hitting on her and she turned him down everytime. She didn't want me to get mad because it's not about us it's about the child. So now I got figure out how to check this nigga without making it hard for my step daughter to see her father. One problem after another.

I'm sure she can handle herself. She didn't show you bc she knew you'd overreact like you're doing now. Tell her to cut off all communication with him.

[veritas]

Real Talk, you must not only allow her to see him, you must never down him in front of her.

her= daughter

[TYSON]

I can't tell her to do that. That would break my daughters heart. I'm gon let him know what's up but I cant take this man out my step daughters life after it was my decision to let him in.

[StarFaggot]

Word.

[TYSON]

If I beat the niggas ass I got to worry bout confrontation all the time and make it hard for my daughter to get comfortable in this situation.

[Witty]

After a lot of arguing I got the passcode and yes he was hitting on her and she turned him down everytime. She didn't want me to get mad because it's not about us it's about the child. So now I got figure out how to check this nigga without making it hard for my step daughter to see her father. One problem after another.

Does it matter? I know it's a pride thing and I can't say I'd react much differently but if she's turning him down you have nothing to worry about.

Confronting him will only make things more complicated for your step daughter...I understand wanting to warn him off tho, any man would...but you gotta put the child first my man.

[TYSON]

Easier said then done

[Witty]

Word.

[Zen]

This thread is why I'm not married. I can't trust anybody.

[Witty]

This thread is why I'm not married. I can't trust anybody.

I have only trusted one girl, it's pretty cool to feel like you have someone who has your back no matter what, but it is very unrealistic...the only person you can trust is you.

Most people are disloyal by force of habit...we are a selfish species.

[Zen]

I have only trusted one girl, it's pretty cool to feel like you have someone who has your back no matter what, but it is very unrealistic...the only person you can trust is you.

Most people are disloyal by force of habit...we are a selfish species.

All of this is true.

From my experience the closer I've gotten to a person the further we drifted apart. All of the little things we did just started to annoy the other person to death.

I'll get married when I'm thirty. That's the perfect time, I think.

[big baby]

This thread is why I'm not married. I can't trust anybody.

zen yewr like 16 yearsold stfu idiyote

[dull boy]

It's less about trust and more about expectation. You may be stoic, and she likes that, but she may also like something more comforting and understanding. Denial of desire, or suppression, leads to resentment towards what's perceived as what's causing the suppression, or fixation for what's desired. Denial is a powerful aphrodisiac, and the grass is always greener philosophy, along with forbidden fruit and a growing consensus that we owe it to ourselves to indulge... it makes it hard to meet the expectations of a traditional relationship. I've been with girls who wanted me to play a role, which is what most people want. Some idealized version of what they think they need. What you have to find is someone who you can connect with, so that the expectations are closely related and well understood. That's how trust builds, I think. Zen

[namix]

namix I got what need out of this. A objective pov. Close thread.....

i dont fucking close threads

asking me to do so makes me want to do opposite of whatever they asked me to do in the future


so i have temporarily stickied your thread as a reminder

[Zen]

zen yewr like 16 yearsold stfu idiyote

Why do we have to keep meeting like this?

I don't actually want to fight you, mustachio. Beardichio and mustachio can be allies. Don't be Kobe.

[Meth]

i dont fucking close threads

asking me to do so makes me want to do opposite of whatever they asked me to do in the future


so i have temporarily stickied your thread as a reminder

LOL

[TYSON]

i dont fucking close threads

asking me to do so makes me want to do opposite of whatever they asked me to do in the future


so i have temporarily stickied your thread as a reminder

Lol think back to how many times I have asked this of u.....none....save the examples for niggas who do it all the time... Aero

[Witty]

I don't understand why there's a problem with asking a mod to close a thread tbh, unless it's a blatant troll, isn't that part and parcel of what comes with running a site?

I love you tho namix.

[namix]

why should topics ever be closed in a discussion forum

unless it's like violating laws or some shit

[namix]

Lol think back to how many times I have asked this of u.....none....save the examples for niggas who do it all the time... Aero

oh yea man, aero is am embarassmant though, he makes an example out of himself lol

your request just was the final straw though - i will de-sticky it once the nba schedule is released yo

[TYSON]

So u acting like a bitch???!!!!! Lol it's cool I'm not really caring. Buttfuck u tho.

[namix]

So u acting like a bitch???!!!!! Lol it's cool I'm not really caring. Buttfuck u tho.

why you getting snippy


i dont even know who you are

[Meth]

Nam throwing down his foot itt

[StarFaggot]

You don't know Tyson? Is this even your site anymore? Guess you've been under Lebron's sac too much to notice anything else recently.

[Blanco Bishop]

Hmmm I feel y'all but I'm gon put it out there, don't care. This about my wife actually. The baby's daddy is back in the picture after 6 years which was partly my decision because I feel should know her real father. I have not met the nigga face to face yet because there is past beef between me and him from him threats of bodily harm to each other and don't want drama in front of the child. She has recently said she don't want another after years of trying and a miscarriage knowing that I always wanted a child of my own. I decided to stay with her tho because she is my wife and I love her and didn't marry her just to have a baby. So now he texts her everyday asking about the child from what I'm told. I am a lil concerned tho because before him our phones passwords were known by each other but now hers has changed since she got a new phone. She tells me that the texts and call are only about the child but I doubt it not to say she wants him because he did too much for her to be stupid enough to go back with him. Is it my insecurities playing with me or should be on the offensive about this? Everything seems to be happy between us but damn I have seen and heard so many relationships where things were not what they seemed. ....trolls have your way I will focus on the honesty the few give me




Dog.


No reason for u not to physically see the texts or hear her calls.


Make a stand.

[Blanco Bishop]

Ok.

Nm. Ic u handled the situation.

[sral]

Hmmm I feel y'all but I'm gon put it out there, don't care. This about my wife actually. The baby's daddy is back in the picture after 6 years which was partly my decision because I feel should know her real father. I have not met the nigga face to face yet because there is past beef between me and him from him threats of bodily harm to each other and don't want drama in front of the child. She has recently said she don't want another after years of trying and a miscarriage knowing that I always wanted a child of my own. I decided to stay with her tho because she is my wife and I love her and didn't marry her just to have a baby. So now he texts her everyday asking about the child from what I'm told. I am a lil concerned tho because before him our phones passwords were known by each other but now hers has changed since she got a new phone. She tells me that the texts and call are only about the child but I doubt it not to say she wants him because he did too much for her to be stupid enough to go back with him. Is it my insecurities playing with me or should be on the offensive about this? Everything seems to be happy between us but damn I have seen and heard so many relationships where things were not what they seemed. ....trolls have your way I will focus on the honesty the few give me

lmao

let this be a lesson to young gamble

while you down there eating that puss, flick your tongue out and punch that leather donut every once in a while yo

dont be that dude scared to confront the nigga who slept with your girl and tossed rubbers on your daugthers forehead during his weekends with the kid

roflzzzz

[sral]

Lol my name tatted on her chest tbh

lmao "I love you Slim, we should be together, think about it"

pathetic

[StarFaggot]

lmao

let this be a lesson to young gamble

while you down there eating that puss, flick your tongue out and punch that leather donut every once in a while yo

dont be that dude scared to confront the nigga who slept with your girl and tossed rubbers on your daugthers forehead during his weekends with the kid

roflzzzz

lol sheesh.

[sral]

TYSON for shame

[Meth]

lmao "I love you Slim, we should be together, think about it"

pathetic

Dead

[TYSON]

TYSON for shame

For what?

[sral]

After a lot of arguing I got the passcode and yes he was hitting on her and she turned him down everytime. She didn't want me to get mad because it's not about us it's about the child. So now I got figure out how to check this nigga without making it hard for my step daughter to see her father. One problem after another.

lmao wouldn't that be such a perfect way for this thread to have reached a conclusion after the mods refused to close it?

c'mon now, that's bullshit and you know it

none of that happened and you still haven't addressed the issue IRL

that's obvious as FUCK from your emotional responses in here

until you screenshot the phone convo and post it, this is complete bullshit on your part

its transparent as shit you haven't confronted that hoe man

put up a pic right now with your wife by your side, the sites name and todays date on a scrap of paper

anything that proves all is good in hoodratsville

I bet your ass cant prove shit

your every post getting negged til proved differently

pussy

[Hush]

dead ass this dude is slow stroking this nigga BM and he on netcees asking muhfuckas for a pep talk



can this be life?
well for a child molestor it can


on top of that

dont this lame ass nigga wife up like fat white biches an shit?


an u cant keep a fat hoe loyal



cot dayum

[TYSON]

lmao wouldn't that be such a perfect way for this thread to have reached a conclusion after the mods refused to close it?

c'mon now, that's bullshit and you know it

none of that happened and you still haven't addressed the issue IRL

that's obvious as FUCK from your emotional responses in here

until you screenshot the phone convo and post it, this is complete bullshit on your part

its transparent as shit you haven't confronted that hoe man

put up a pic right now with your wife by your side, the sites name and todays date on a scrap of paper

anything that proves all is good in hoodratsville

I bet your ass cant prove shit

your every post getting negged til proved differently

pussy

U really think I would do all that to prove something to netcees????lmao the reason I said close thread was because I got the objective thoughts I needed from the few that took it seriously and wanted to avoid it going to troll city like it is now. Everything happened like I said but what u believe is on u. I got bigger problems to deal with.

[TYSON]

dead ass this dude is slow stroking this nigga BM and he on netcees asking muhfuckas for a pep talk



can this be life?
well for a child molestor it can


on top of that

dont this lame ass nigga wife up like fat white biches an shit?


an u cant keep a fat hoe loyal



cot dayum

U just want a reaction too. U still stay with your moms u probably fucking mangled pussy bitch cause u alone faggot.

[sral]

lmao I read that entire post and all I got was you cant prove the bullshit Disney fairytale ending you just made up in here has the slightest ring of truth to it

you got bigger problems to deal with like the woman who vowed to stick with you for better or worse sucking up the next mans sperm while you at work to pay off your mortgage ahahaha

wifey changing her ex niggas sheets while you blindly thinking she changing your daughters diapers and shit

wowzer

[Witty]

ehhhh.

[Niggers]

Feel like home in here.

[Hush]

U just want a reaction too. U still stay with your moms u probably fucking mangled pussy bitch cause u alone faggot.

Yea but see that's a fantasy u created

Facts are ur wife's a bbw
And might have adulterous thoughts


I'm here to help

Have u been buying the pie she likes?

[big baby]

until you screenshot the phone convo and post it, this is complete bullshit on your part


says guy who made out with bipolar bisexual girl at bar with his fiance/wife at home whos in politics and subtle computer hacker

[sral]

lmao i've a fiance, pics have been posted here, i even started a post your pic thread with us both in the OP

i'm not 'in' politics, i said i'd like to do it after retirement and listed my reasons why

its been known ive taken boards down previously

aint nothing subtle about me

no need for me to lie on here

i always kept it a pound

[sral]

LMAO "NEXT TIME, ON MTV'S CATFISH..."

[Nemean]

Smell her breath, if it smell like another niggaz dick she cheating

[StarFaggot]

Smell her breath, if it smell like another niggaz dick she cheating

What does another niggas dick smell like?

[DLB]

aero caught this nigga

[Nemean]

IDK I guess Tyson gon tell us eventually

[Hush]

IDK I guess Tyson gon tell us eventually

Confirmed dick odour specialist

[Nemean]

Dead at the tags

I already feel welcome here