Your Ex Wants To Remain FWB....

Decibel · 08-23-2013, 01:11 AM

Would you say yes or no?

Yea, I was/currently in this situation.

Neighbor · 08-23-2013, 01:35 AM

Only if she lets you cum in her face

Decibel · 08-23-2013, 01:37 AM

Lmfao... here comes the ridiculous answers.

Neighbor · 08-23-2013, 01:37 AM

That's real talk

Decibel · 08-23-2013, 01:39 AM

Na...

Its more like I want something she gives it and she wants something I give it.

Certain · 08-23-2013, 01:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Decibel

Would you say yes or no?

Yea, I was/currently in this situation.

I had this deal for a while with an ex who was somewhat still in love with me even though I had never really been in love with her (which I told her when I broke up with her because I'm a shitty person).

Anyway, here's what happened: We had a lot of sex, more than we did when we were dating. I'm talking every time we saw each other, which was frequently because we lived close by and had many mutual friends. We did it in a friend's bathroom at a party just because. And the sex was better, both because we were so comfortable with each other's bodies after all that experience and because there were no fuzzy emotions. She was in love with me to a degree, but she understood what we were there for, and that love probably was more physical than anything.

So that sounds great, right?

Well, here's what happened: Neither of us moved on while this arrangement was going on. Then I got a job and moved halfway across the country. Within four months, she was dating the guy she's probably going to marry. He's terrific and so much better for her than I ever was. I'm thrilled for them. And I got better ass myself, albeit less frequently. I still haven't found real love (probably because I'm a shitty person), but I've definitely been closer with girls I met after we stopped fucking than I ever was with her.

My feeling is that the friends-with-benefits scenario harbors apathy toward finding something real and better. But having sex regularly is pretty great.

Decibel · 08-23-2013, 01:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Certain Serpent

I had this deal for a while with an ex who was somewhat still in love with me even though I had never really been in love with her (which I told her when I broke up with her because I'm a shitty person).

Anyway, here's what happened: We had a lot of sex, more than we did when we were dating. I'm talking every time we saw each other, which was frequently because we lived close by and had many mutual friends. We did it in a friend's bathroom at a party just because. And the sex was better, both because we were so comfortable with each other's bodies after all that experience and because there were no fuzzy emotions. She was in love with me to a degree, but she understood what we were there for, and that love probably was more physical than anything.

So that sounds great, right?

Well, here's what happened: Neither of us moved on while this arrangement was going on. Then I got a job and moved halfway across the country. Within four months, she was dating the guy she's probably going to marry. He's terrific and so much better for her than I ever was. I'm thrilled for them. And I got better ass myself, albeit less frequently. I still haven't found real love (probably because I'm a shitty person), but I've definitely been closer with girls I met after we stopped fucking than I ever was with her.

My feeling is that the friends-with-benefits scenario harbors apathy toward finding something real and better. But having sex regularly is pretty great.

Damn.. thanks for the honest answer. Its been 8 months sense the break up and still have sex frequently but never really looked for anything else. This is probably whats holding me back from moving on to be honest.

oats · 08-23-2013, 01:55 AM

Bad idea. Of all the fuckbuddies I had, the one that went most awry was with my ex. It's very easy to fall into dating again, and makes for many ruinous nights out. Pussy is great and all, but unless you're trying to get back together with her, I'd say move on. Pound a bunch of sloppy bitches until you find something better.

Decibel · 08-23-2013, 01:57 AM

Well I already been doing others sense the breakup (1 is her friend and the other is back from highschool days) but IDK. lol

Strikta · 08-23-2013, 02:03 AM

Yes, u stay friends w/ benefits.

God Of War · 08-23-2013, 04:24 AM

man its never a good idea...despite how g someone claims to be someone is eventually going to try to catch a feeling or two and its going ot turn out shitty

its not worth it

08-23-2013, 05:01 AM

I say beat n keep beating bc sliding is good

but after the relationship ends deaden the attachment n just treat her like a beat n separate out the feelings of attachment

hard but possible

do u tho

...the Nagger · 08-23-2013, 08:06 AM

if you two had real feelings, its not a good idea

there's a lot of cut buddies out there

08-23-2013, 01:11 AM	#1
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08-23-2013, 01:39 AM	#5
Decibel Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2013 Posts: 269 Battle Record: 2-3 Rep Power: 0	Na... Its more like I want something she gives it and she wants something I give it.

08-23-2013, 01:55 AM	#8
oats Steel Cut Join Date: May 2013 Posts: 5,075 Battle Record: 19-10 Accomplishments - OM HOF (2x) Champed - Fight Night LXXXIV - Art of Writing League Rep Power: 79005425	Bad idea. Of all the fuckbuddies I had, the one that went most awry was with my ex. It's very easy to fall into dating again, and makes for many ruinous nights out. Pussy is great and all, but unless you're trying to get back together with her, I'd say move on. Pound a bunch of sloppy bitches until you find something better.

08-23-2013, 01:57 AM	#9
Decibel Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2013 Posts: 269 Battle Record: 2-3 Rep Power: 0	Well I already been doing others sense the breakup (1 is her friend and the other is back from highschool days) but IDK. lol

08-23-2013, 02:03 AM	#10
Strikta 39 NS, lost in votes once Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 11,242 Battle Record: 32-40 Champed - Time to Kill X - Write Week III Rep Power: 84181449	Yes, u stay friends w/ benefits.

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God Of War The Landlord Join Date: Jan 2013 Posts: 5,825 Battle Record: 12-10 Rep Power: 10493980	man its never a good idea...despite how g someone claims to be someone is eventually going to try to catch a feeling or two and its going ot turn out shitty its not worth it

08-23-2013, 05:01 AM	#12
Rawn M.D. Guest Posts: n/a	I say beat n keep beating bc sliding is good but after the relationship ends deaden the attachment n just treat her like a beat n separate out the feelings of attachment hard but possible do u tho

08-23-2013, 08:06 AM	#13
...the Nagger Junior Member Join Date: May 2013 Posts: 2,862 Battle Record: 4-4 Rep Power: 15781384	if you two had real feelings, its not a good idea there's a lot of cut buddies out there